before eating fill a cup with water and squeeze half a lemon (or lime) inside. mix it with a spoon and put in the microwave for 30 seconds.
when you finish your plate or when you are done eating something, drink the cup and stay still for a full minute or two. i recommend closing your eyes during this time to sink in what you ate.
this process stops my gluttony. the lemon speeds up your metabolism and the warm liquid helps with the digestion.
remember that what’s done is done, there’s no point dwelling on the past & tomorrow is a new day
talk to family/friends (about life not food)
go for a short slow walk somewhere flat & if possible immersed in nature/by the ocean
listen to music that makes you happy/relaxed - having a dance party/screaming the lyrics can also be helpful
do NOT restrict the next day - depriving yourself will simply make you want food more (on top of that the body is often hungrier than usual after a big day of eating anyway) & then you’ll get yourself into a cycle of restricting & overeating which isn’t healthy & is really difficult to get out of. Instead focus on having regular wholesome meals during the day & nourishing your mind/body/soul.
watch uplifting/distracting TV
go see a friend
have a shower/bath - cold showers are very refreshing/awakening which are particularly helpful if you find your mind is going very quickly & you’re feeling uncontrollably upset) whereas warm/hot showers/baths are more relaxing & soothing (try adding bath bombs, epsom salts, essential oils too!)
do something creative - colouring in, drawing, sketching, knitting, editing photos, taking photos, exploring Pinterest, blogging etc
cuddle your pet
journal your thoughts
immerse yourself in nature/jump in the ocean
meditate to soothing music
hydrate & keep water with you wherever you go or by your bed
do a restorative yoga flow
go to bed - try lying on your left side, this is easiest for your digestion
read a book
do any work you have
know that you aren’t alone & that almost everyone goes through this too
Imagine how many people’s lives they ruined. There were probably so many women that went in there knowing they destroyed that test. Yet, when they got their results back…they had to be so confused and disappointed. Mentally and emotionally, that had to be quite the blow. Anyway, this is evil.
And ossans here make the excuse “well they’ll quit when they get married/pregnant anyway so why waste time hiring them huehhueueh”. the whole gender role and work culture here contributes to this bullshit.
also tokyo university wasn’t the only school doing this, after this news came out a bunch of other medical universities were revealed to be doing it too.
hot take: moms need to learn how to listen to and comfort their daughters without making everything about their own traumas
a classic example
daughter: hey this thing you do bothers me very much and i wish you wouldn’t do it
mom: well my parents abused me and im not even as bad as they were and i had to sit through it so you gotta sit through whatever i do to you too
a common variant
mom: well i’m having a really hard time right now and you know that i’m doing my best and that i didn’t mean to hurt you ergo you are in fact the asshole for asking me to consider your feelings and change my behavior during this hard hard time i’m having
least favorite
mom: fine. you’re right and i’m wrong and i’m a horrible person. there. are you happy now?
see also
mom: you can’t be mad at me. you’re not allowed to be mad at me. i can’t stand it.
Last two are definitely my mom and hence why he don’t talk.
